« hey there | Main | Rolling with it »

September 06, 2013



Poor Ryan, he has been thru so much. So glad he is on the mend and has a new job to look forward to. Dont feel too bad, I am sure I would have assumed the wrong thing and done the bitchy mom routine! You are a GREAT Mom and Grandma, and everyone, including your family, knows it!


I'm glad that your son is doing so much better! With all you've had to handle lately, it's no wonder you're feeling the way you do. I hope you will feel much better in a few days and that your dental surgery goes smoothly today. Will keep good thoughts for you. :)

Debbie Beracha

Karla, what was it, what had Ryan feeling so bad? I am so sorry !!!!! I am so relieved Ryan is feeling better and going to be ok, and I hope he has that job to look forward to !!!! Get well Ryan !!!!!

Karen B.

Dearest Karla,
first I would like to say that I am so happy that you son is getting well again and secondly .. Hun, we all make mistakes or misjudge a situation. Don't worry too much, I am sure your son knows that you only want the best in life for him. I send you heartwarming hugs and your son healing hugs and well wishes.
Thinking of the both of you,
Karen B. ~ Todolwen


Karla, How very very scary!! You deserve some down time just to gather your wits about you. You've been through th
e mill! Poor Ry, but glad to hear that he got a new job!
Take care of all of you there! So glad that the outcome is a positive one. Hugs,

Mary Truax

Oh, Karla. I'm wiping away tears as I type. I've had a few moments that I'm not proud of taking care of my elderly parents. Just forgive yourself. Your sweet son does not hold a grudge. He knows how much you love him. As does the rest of your family. And your readers. Anyone that shares her life unselfishly the way you do must have a huge heart.


Tears of joy Karla... tears of joy... *sniffle*
big hug,


Hon, we all have our Mom Moments. All of us. You need to rest and take care of yourself. You've been through so much of late and to be 'lazy' for a few days would be like a balm to the spirit. I am so glad that Ry is healing and feeling better. And, that the job he's been wanting has come through. He is an amazing young man! As you are and amazing Mom! Perhaps lose yourself in some inspiration and crafting? Hugs to you, Karla. And, more Hugs!


Karla, I am so very glad that your son is ok. Sweetie you deserve a break and I hope your dental surgery goes well. Many blessings of wellness to you and your family.


Oh my Dear, what you have been through! And no one but a Mother, can know how harrowing it was. And then, other stresses, on top of the bigggg one.

You certainly deserve and need, a day off. Or 2. Or 3. And I mean, days after your dental surgery. Imagine! Dental surgery, as a topper, on your stressful time. -sighhhhhh-

Leaving you with lots and lots and lots of gentle hugs. You deserve them. I'm pretty sure you can use them. {{{{{{Karla}}}}}}


Debbie Beracha

Oh Karla, I am so sorry, how scary for you and Ryan. Get well Ryan !!! Feel better. What was the illness, what happened to him? I am so sorry. Do whatever you need to do to feel better and rest up !! Love, Debbie.


Hugs to all!

Sheila Rumney


How scary for you all! I am so sorry to hear about Ryan and hope that you are not too hard on yourself as you are an incredible loving mom (and grammy)! Sending hugs your way. Take care.



We've all done it, Karla. One way or the other, then had the guilts. Big time. But the thing that matters is that he's all right, he has a new job and soon he'll b good to go. I sent boatloads of healing hugs to all of you -- hugs to Ryan and also to you, because right now I think you need them. No beating yourself up... that was then.

Right now, I hope you can enjoy serious tea (or stronger), quiet times and some recharging. I have a feeling Ryan forgave you a long time ago. Forgive yourself. You are both lucky.

Hugs! jeanie


Sending hugs, TLC and compassion to the both of you ~ I'm so glad he's doing better now!

Terri Gordon

Dear Karla, I am so sorry to hear about Ryan, so glad that he is on the mend! I know the feeling when you finally realize what you have been through and have time to think about it, it is harder than when you were going through it. Take a break and relax, you deserve it! Have a wonderful weekend. Hugs, Terri


I think it sounds like you DESERVE a break! And I think anyone who said they have never felt that 'mom guilt' would be lying. We've all been there. Don't beat yourself up. He knows you love him.
I hope he is feeling better very soon. Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Debi

Susan Reaney

Karla, Hugs to you. You have been through so much!

Joyce Gilpin

I am sorry that this happened to your son...but so happy that it is now behind you and you can rest now. Sounds like you have been through a lot! Get lots of rest, Karla...and just know that so many people love you! Sending you big hugs!

Other Karla

I know this isn't remotely funny, but I can't help thinking about the conversations at future holiday dinners. "Remember that time I was so sick and Mom made me shovel mulch for four hours?" Yeah, that will be come legendary. But seriously, so happy it turned out well.

Terry Neibaur

Love you, just take a minute to relax and regroup. You are an awesome mom! Glad Ryan is doing better. Wish I was closer so I could see you more.


No matter how much we do for our kids, how much we love them, how much we sacrifice, it's the mistakes that we remember, isn't it? And boy, do we let ourselves have it. We punish ourselves mercilessly and guilt consumes us. The part to hold onto? You're not alone! My kids are still little ones and I already do this to myself. I can't imagine what you must be going through having to deal with "grown-up" issues regarding your son.

I think that's why grandparents always talk about how their relationships with their grandkids is so different from their own. Because they get to have all the fun! While raising kids is so much work. And my mom who has 7 ages 40-50, says it never stops!! You never stop worrying and being mom.

Take heart, you were just being mom. And sometimes we're the last to know! But, as soon as you realized there was something really wrong, you ran out of there like a shot and did what you had to do.

Hope Ryan gets that job and if not, something even better comes along.

Laura Strack

My gosh, Karla, hope you are feeling better. As Mothers, we tend to take care of everyone around us, but not ourselves. Take some much needed Me time. Ryan will be working soon and his new employer will see what an asset he really is and he will feel better, too. Big hugs to you all!


Karla, so sorry you had to go through such a tough time with your son and so happy he is now on the mend. please don't think you are alone...we have all lost it in our attempt to help our children become all they were meant to be. He knows you love him and want the best for his life. Sounds like you could really use a period of making pretty things to get your light back on.....and I know you are so thankful that he is alright. We all lose sight of the really important things in life because of the rat race we are in sometimes. Hope your dental surgery went well and you are feeling better. You are such a loving mom and grandma, don't believe the lies in your head. Everything will be okay. You will be in my prayers. Linda



I'm happy to hear that Ryan is on the mend and has a new job waiting for him! I'm sorry you have been going through a tough time and hope that your dental surgery goes smoothly and you have a quick and easy recovery.

I know all about holding it together during a crisis and then losing it when the worst is finally over. Take a deep breath and try to let it all go. You are such a loving and giving person, and sometimes you just need to take a little time for yourself.


Elaine LaMonk

From one momma to another, your post really had me crying. I'm so grateful that Ryan is well and got the job that he wanted. Hip Hip Horay!


Linda P.

I can just feel your pain and regret pouring out of this post, Karla. I am so very, very sorry all of you had to experience this. The big thing I am thanking the Lord for is that Ryan is OK! Oh, how we all make mistakes in this adventure we call parenting. Please do forgive yourself. You had no idea there was something wrong with Ryan. Now that this nightmare is over, you have been given a gift--the gift of truly appreciating your son and that he is alive! You will look at him with new eyes, and that really can be such a gift.

That is really special that you are doing all these little extras for him. I know he feels your love in all of it!

Oh, and I am so so so happy for all of you that Ryan got the job he wanted! That is so great! Sometimes the end of one job turns out to be a blessing in disguise because the next job turns out to be even better than the last.

Go Ryan! Go Karla! Hugs all around. I hope both of you are feeling much better.

mercedes scott

Oh Karla, your story brought tears to my eyes! Such a sad story, but with a beautiful ending. Ryan is home and mending, that is what matters. Don't beat yourself up about everything else that happened in between - it's not worth it. Your son, and your family, know how deep your love is and that you would cross oceans for them. Sh#t happens; we all lose our tempers with our loved ones.
Please take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. I'm sending hugs and hoping you are feeling better soon, Mercedes.


Oh Karla I am so sorry for all of you. But, I am ecstatic to hear about ryan being back home and doing well. How wonderful he has a new job waiting for him. All moms are equipped with that gene that allows us to be tough for everyone around us until all sense of danger has passed. You are so entitled to veg out and take time for you.
Big Hugs

Yvonne Welty

We moms are only human and sometimes things just happen. Hopefully you WILL have a long time of non events to look forward too. I totally related to you with that sentence. Sometimes the mundane is the best time. Sending big hugs and prayers to you and Ryan. Things will work out! It's just the process that's a pain!

Laura Adams

Oh, Honey, I have so many of these types of regrets as a mom - we all do. You did the right thing at the right time, and you did it out of love, and that's what counts. This brought tears to my eyes, as I empathized with what you went through. From the looks of him, Ryan is about my son's age, and he's had some troubles along these lines, also. I totally identify. I will be praying for Ryan's continued strength & healing (what was it, after all?), and for your emotional healing, too. Don't dwell on the past, but rather, look forward to a better future. This is my very first visit to your blog, and I will be coming back to check on Ryan's progress.

Freda Butler

Karla I was so sorry to read about what happened to Ryan. I can imagine how bad you felt as we Mothers all would have.

I am sure we will all have handled it as you did not knowing he was sick.

It all turned out well and he has another job. Good for Ryan. He is a good looking young man and looks gentle and kind.

Hugs to you both

Verify your Comment

Previewing your Comment

This is only a preview. Your comment has not yet been posted.

Your comment could not be posted. Error type:
Your comment has been posted. Post another comment

The letters and numbers you entered did not match the image. Please try again.

As a final step before posting your comment, enter the letters and numbers you see in the image below. This prevents automated programs from posting comments.

Having trouble reading this image? View an alternate.


Post a comment

Your Information

(Name and email address are required. Email address will not be displayed with the comment.)

About Karla Nathan

Creating Art Journals

Mini Dress Form Workshop

  • Learn how to make a mini dress form, and get tips on how to embellish your creation. This class comes with ideas, videos, instructions and ephemera images to download and print.

Wire Bird Cage Cloche Workshop Button

  • Learn a simple trick to make these cute cages and cloches in different sizes, complete with fairy image download and instructions too

Birdsong FIVE

Romantic Gothic Ghosts

  • An orange free Halloween tutorial

Romantic White Christmas E-Zine

  • Creative projects and ideas for a lovely holiday season
Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...
Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...